Oregon writer, Rain Trueax, and Oregon painter, Diane Widler Wenzel co-author Rainy Day Thought. Diane generally posts on Wednesdays and Rain on Saturdays. There may be extra days or changes as situations warrant. Comments are always welcome and appreciated as it turns an article into a discussion.

Wednesday, April 29, 2015


If you are uncomfortable with sexual discussions, then stop reading right now and come back on Saturday :).

More on the dilemma of being 'out there' or 'in the arena' as the video last week talked about. When you write for yourself and you are the only one who sees your words, you do not face what I got recently, making it worse-- just before I went to bed. Another review with this time only 2 stars and I would say an angry more than disappointed ex-reader:
Very disappointed, the sample of the story didn't prepare me for all the sexual context in the book. Had an good story line , historical facts , this author seem to thing that loading it down with bedroom seances made it better . If you are looking for a good clean historical novel this is not it! On a positive note St. Cloud was a good addition to the book! His faith in God and his knowledge was refreshing. !
I do everything I can to avoid this happening. I do not want that reader and my book to come together. She does not want sex in a book. I don't want her unhappy for reading things she'd rather not see. My blurbs for the books all have the warnings. The words sweet or clean do not appear. I reference the book having a heat level of 4 ♥♥♥♥. There is, however, no way to force someone to read the blurb. I also cannot help them interpret the sample. There are no opening chapters to romances (erotica maybe) that have the hero and heroine jumping in bed; so no sample will ever tell a reader there will or will not be sex. That has to be found in the blurb. 

This whole thing is driving me nuts-- not though about readers who don't want sex. This lady only represents the tip of the iceberg of readers who want zero sex, violence and profanity in their books. It is a movement that is hitting back against the easing up of what is possible in mainstream literature. My problem is how do I keep those readers from buying my books? I suppose some of them would like censorship where nobody could read books like mine-- where writers are forced to take out what these readers don't want to see.

Censorship can work. Big publishing houses can be impacted by it. Writers who have to make a living can. Now, with independent writers, it's harder to make the will of a movement felt on all. Writers like me are not going to change what they write. Amazon might be impacted if the pressure builds on them. The censorship movement did have some success with certain best-selling erotica a couple of years ago, but I think it eventually got back out.

I am in the midst of the new one, Aztec Moon, and it has the same level of heat. I do not write what is computer driven by the latest polls for what readers want. When I put my books (this blog also) out there, I am revealing something of myself, my thinking, my belief about life. Because they say never contact a reader or answer a review, I cannot explain to her why the opening sample in that book gave more clues as to what was coming than even the blurb.

I won't post the sample here. Anybody who wants can take a free look [Round the Bend]. The book's first three chapters are reached by clicking on the cover. What I am going to say here is I am beginning to get a feel for what upsets these women readers so much. It's not that there is sex permeating the whole book as the above reviewer implies. Sure there is desire, but where I think the upset came, for this reader, is who is feeling it-- the woman. 

The heroine is young, not quite eighteen, and she is just awakening to her own body and to what it feels like to desire a man. Round the Bend is not just about a man jumping a woman's bones (he does try that in the first chapter). The story is her growing in her understanding of what she wants. It's her thoughts, her yearnings more than even actual action. She is headstrong, and it takes a lot for her to realize actions have consequences. I have a feeling the women readers (and it is mostly women) dislike it that the heroine is the aggressor, and he is the more responsible one where it comes to understanding consequences. There are reasons he knows that and she does not. It is her journey to learn it.

Because I do understand how sex can be a powerful force and even one that can be destructive, I have another female character in the book who illustrates the other side of how women can deceive and even damage themselves by misunderstanding what sex is really about-- which means it belongs in responsible, mature relationships where the consequences are fully faced. That's the message the reviewer above missed.

Round the Bend is in a lot of ways the journey of women. Being 71 years old, I am well aware of how most women were taught about sex. They threatened us so much with don't do it that they forgot to tell us how it should be done. They were so afraid of the power of sex that they turned it into something unclean outside of a closed bedroom door-- do not talk about it, watch it, or hear anything about it. 

Of course, many women did it anyway and many married pregnant; but they usually wanted to think that they were seduced into it. It was what a good woman did. She got seduced. She didn't do the seducing. 

Well (and this happens a lot in my books), this heroine discovers a good woman can feel desire and want a man. Then she worries that she isn't good. She eventually talks to her mother about her sexual desire. When she tells the hero her mother's wisdom, that whitens his face, but it shows the kind of relationship the heroine has with her mother. The mother does all she can to stop her daughter from having sex too young or from being with the wrong man, but she recognizes reality and gives her practical advice (also from the Bible, I might add).

You know, the Bible is a pretty lusty book itself. It actually has one book just about passion and a woman's desire for a man-- Song of Solomon. Worth reading if you have forgotten how heady that book actually is. Now religious teachers have tried to tame it down to suit their fear of healthy sexuality by saying it's talking about a man's love for God; but give me a break! Anybody who reads it knows it speaks of a woman's desire for her lover's body and his for hers. It even discusses oral sex-- of course, in a very poetic way, but the words cannot be mistaken. 

What I believe is that healthy sexuality is what more people need to read about. Not in some dry textbook with the biological facts but in a way that inspires an understanding that actions have consequences and that the connection we want with another person is one that goes beyond the physical to include the soul or spirit. 

I won't quit writing books like the one that so offended her. I think such books are healthy for readers. I just want to find a way so that a reader like her and I never come across each other.

As I lay in bed after reading that review, I thought putting books out there is a lot like going to a dance where you didn't go with a date. This might be something young people don't experience today, but I remember being in a big hall where the girls sat on one side. The boys on the other. The music started and the boys began to come across to ask girls to dance-- or not. 

For this dance, the music starts when the book is out there. The reader is the one who requests a dance, a relationship that lasts as long as the book takes unless the reader wants more dances. What I want to find is a way to not have my books asked to the dance by those who will find a full exploration of life is not their cup of tea. There are plenty of books out there for them, they are called sweet or clean. Those readers should also watch where they read in the Bible. ;)


Tabor said...

This is a case of writer and reader not coming together on a product...not a criticism of either the work or the writer. While you may want to understand more and do something in describing the plot so that readers don't get blindsided I would not over-worry. Some readers can not be appeased unless it is a book they would write themselves. I can imagine how painful it is to have someone say something like this about your baby.

Rain Trueax said...

Yeah, it's a tough time for our culture with huge divisions as to what is all right and what is not. Censorship has always been an issue for us and often where it comes to sexuality more than violence. Anyway the good part is she did make clear why she hated the book. The bad part is how Amazon now does reviews. I have 12 for this book with one really negative one. Yet, when Amazon posts them below the book, they rank them-- most beneficial positive review and most beneficial negative review. Likes by other readers determine it although with only one negative, she would have gotten equal weight to a reader who loved the book. Amazon has gone to this for all products. I am not sure how it will help them but it does make it tough to have to see someone who thinks I am a sex nut writer every time I go down there to look at other reviews lol. alas, it's the problem with being in the arena.

Despite my saying I'd not let it impact me, I found myself cutting away from what would have been a sexy scene in the book I am writing. I am going back today to put the heat back into that scene. I like outdoor scenes and this would have been a good one... Will be a good one :). But I can see how if a lot of readers emphasize their hate of sex in a book, it might impact even Amazon for what they try to change. I write for my own pleasure and because I have a story to tell. I do not want to find my story being changed by someone else's uneasiness with any aspect of the book. If it gets too bad with that kind of thing, I can always quit publishing and go back to writing for myself. It's not there at this point though :)

I really felt she was slamming me more than the book as a writer who put in sex where it didn't need to be. I can't tell her but I don't do that. I put it where it belongs. At the age of my couples, it's a big part of life and having it be responsible and understanding that it goes beyond pleasure to something deeper is one of my goals in writing. These people come together on emotional and physical levels that I believe are possible and enrich lover relationships. I have seen a few comments other places where the reader hates this hot sex because they don't have it. It's not up to the writer to reach down to the least possible experiences but to the heights. Goals not disappointments are what romances are about ;)

Laura said...

Hi Rain! I found your books via the Customers also bought section on my Amazon Author Page. If it's any consolation, I've received a five star on one book despite its lack of sex, the reviewer said, and a one star because of all the sex said a different reviewer. The fun thing about it was, they were talking about the same book! I've also read reviews on Christian romances where a woman finding her husband attractive was too lustful and dirty. That tells me the reader has more of a problem than anyone else.

For me, my theory is if you've created three dimensional characters, they're going to have sex on their terms. I have pages of sex scenes in a leftover folder for both of my Oregon Trail books because the scenes were too much too soon when I went back and edited.

Now if you'll excuse me, I've got to upload Bannister's Way because the cover and sample seduced me.

Rain Trueax said...

lol Laura and glad to see you and your opinions are welcome-- whichever way they go. Yes, that cover seduced me too ;) and he just had to have his own book after being a sedondary character in Desert Inferno.

I have heard other authors saying what you did. What is amazing about Round the Bend is how little real sex there is in it. I also found it amazing that, despite what I said, I was letting that review influence me regarding Aztec Moon. I almost let a scene go that the characters needed to develop their relationship. Then I realized I was already over the line for the reader who said what she did about Round the Bend. I needed to stay true to the story and those characters. :) It's not surprising though that writers do let such influence them-- except you're right. One will hate what another will love. My novellas all stay below 3, but it's word length not trying to be sweet :). I don't even like thinking of myself as sweet, let alone my writing ;)

Ashleigh Burroughs said...

Write what's in your heart... it's what makes your work as beautiful as it is. You can't please everyone, nor should you try. People who are upset or offended can put the book down; there is no homework assignment requiring them to finish it.

That's the beauty of reading - you enter a world created by another and you can decide to stay or to go, you can form an opinion about the work, but the work itself remains available to the rest of the reading public.

I assume that I am reading the author's best efforts. If you water it down to please someone who is offended by a different perspective, you are doing us all a disservice.

Glad you are putting that scene back in :-)

Rain Trueax said...

I agree a/b. It's kind of like our blogs too. Write what we feel and our story. I just wish I could find a way to ward off those who will be so offended. I do feel though that I did what I could if she had just read the blurb.

I had another review which I thought was funny in a way. it was mostly positive but the reviewer said they had thought i was a Christian and wasn't sure why but found out I wasn't as she read the story. If she had been one of my blog readers, she'd have not wondered about that :)