Negative Month?

 Before 2026, I had never had a month, which I felt had gone negative for me. Well, I have now with March. It began with something not good in my life and ended that way. I am debating how much of what is personal I want to share; so, this blog will not provide the answer. Just that the one thing it didn't involve was my marriage. We've been married for 62 years, with ups and downs, but entering our 80s, our bond is stronger than ever. Luckily, considering what went wrong in other areas.

Another good thing is we agree on political issues, maybe with some differing for strength of opinions, but always general agreement.

What I want to share today is what has been upsetting where it comes to events outside our life and home. 

 Not sure which should come first, but let's go with which to me seems most important. It actually began February 28 when my country bombed Iran in what I think was called Epic Fury. It involved hitting the leaders they felt were part of a threat to use nuclear bombs on other nations and was done in conjunction with Israel. Were they right, or were the targets moderates for that country? Either way, where does that leave us?

I understand the concern about Iran finally having a nuclear bomb, which has been a concern for years with other leaders in the world. Iran has a religious agenda, making it more possible they would use, no matter the consequences for their own nation. 

Still going to war there feels... too much like Vietnam, Iraq, Libya, and Afghanistan-- ongoing wars, eventually demanding more troops than can be acquired without a draft. With grandchildren in the age group, do I want that? Not remotely. But do I understand the confusing issues, as I do not want to see nuclear bombs used by anyone on other countries.

Hence, March has filled me with angst for where this will end up. Given my age, I've seen wars, none that ended well, no matter who 'claims they won.'

The second issue is kind of mixed-- the No Kings Protests. which involved a few million demonstrators across the country. I do not have a problem with people expressing their angst through peaceful protests, but also it's never been my way. I vote and donate, write in this blog and comment places where I disagree, but have never demonstrated even when I did not like something, like say the Vietnam War.

What bothered me most with this latest demonstration was what many said, who were interviewed for what they wanted. Like, say-- defund police. Or open the borders to let in anyone who wants to come, making a border meaningless.  Or moving our country toward socialism, where one person works, and another takes what they earned.

For others, out with signs, it was just hate for Trump and resentment for those who had voted for him instead of their own preference. 

Here is how I see it. He is not a king, nor is he trying to use more power than other presidents, like Obama and Biden used. He just is not their preference-- hence to them a king, but they don't think it was so  for a president who  tried to force people to join a preferred insurance plan or get a certain kind of vaccination.  

I guess No Kings was a clever trope, but didn't work for me at all. The sad part is those who joined it, they saw themselves as the heroes, no matter what it might do for the country, and more division between them and the bad guys-- guess who *s* .  What I believe is it is more division and directing people to stay in their own comfortable bubble. I've never had a personal bubble, but sure have seen their benefit for some.

All images from Stencil 

Social Media

Social media wasn't even a factor not that many years ago. When I first got into online conversations, it was years ago and began with chats. First a very simple format; then some more complicated, with more rules for who could (or was supposed to) join. Back then, there weren't nearly the options that grew with time-- for better or not so much?

 

1979, and it is me, but not today. If I used it as a current image, how would readers know the difference? Only if they'd seen current images that didn't look the same-- if I was wanting to be honest...

I read today that a woman sued Meta for her addiction to being online and got, I think, 3 million dollars from a jury. Not sure how she proved it as I only saw it had happened after it had.

To me, it seems juries go kind of nuts with paying out someone else's money as how can a site make someone get addicted??? I know it can be tempting to spend more time there than benefits one's life, but, addicted???

When I first got to meeting people, online, that I'd know no other way, it was fun. I used it to learn about other parts of the country, but I learned more, some not so good.

By now, most have heard of catfishing. Not the type that used catfish to keep fish alive when being shipped or the kind fishermen caught. No, this is when people took on an identity of someone else, maybe someone more interesting than they felt their life was. Also there is the use of photos of someone else, images found online usually, to create a new identity.

In those years of chats, I ran into the negative side of the internet with people who took money from others, lied about their identity, and cost innocent people a lot of unhappiness. The irony is these catfishers, I believe, came to think their created identity was real. One claimed to be crippled. He met the woman, he had tried to court with that lie. Did he think she'd not mind? I don't know, but he wasn't crippled and she did not take it well. Another guy pretended to be a woman because he wanted a lesbian. Bet you do not have to guess how that ended. 

Another word that has been more heavily used, but was first since 1938 in a play. Gaslighting is  a form of psychological abuse or manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind. Typically, gaslighters are seeking to gain power and control over the other person, by distorting reality and forcing them to question their own judgment and intuition. This has ended up most brutal with kids, who have sometimes killed themselves over the tactic. 

Because I like reading about true crime, I have read more than a few who went somewhere to meet someone they thought would be a loved one, only to not just lose money but also their freedom.  

What's the lesson? I think be careful how much information you put out about yourself online to people you do not know. I am honest here about myself (would not have to be), but I don't tell everything. Do others even want or need to know 'everything?'

Social media is great to a point, but it has drawbacks also. People can be nastier than they would be in real life. Just don't believe all you see online even with photos, which may not be of the person at all. 

 

Iran and the West

 One thing I learned about Iran was when its name was changed from Persia. From what I read those who lived in that land never considered it Persia. It was Iran from its historic past and only Persia to the Greeks and the West, in the Bible as Persia. I guess the people are regarded as Persian but not their country, which goes back to the 6th century BCE and the Achaemenid Empire under Cyrus the Great.The Achaemenid dynasty, with leaders like Darius I and Xerxes, put Persia into history – Persia became known for its military might and artistic magnificence.

 

 from Stencil

 

The name change to Iran came in 1953 after what is known as the CIA Coup, which put the Shah into power to restore the monarchy over what had been ruling the land. The Shah aligned with the West and the United States. He changed the name to what he felt was more in line with its history. He set about modernizing the country and maybe the beginning of the Iranian people coming to resent the United States, since the Shah was an autocratic dictator and brutal in how he ruled. When he tried to change, it was basically too late.

 So, with the US connected to that when the Iranian Revolution came along in 1979 to install, Khomeini as the nation's leader, religious as well as political. the US was not seen favorably by him (the Great Satan) as well as many of the people.

That led to the hostage crisis, those who had been in our embassy (444), which lasted over a year with the last 52 hostages not released until Reagan was inaugurated.  

Some of this is, of course, historic. The US did 'bad' things, but some is religious. In Islam there are two versions (what I read), but to Iran's leaders, only one is valid. Their desire is not just to get rid of Israel, which they regularly declare, but to make all the nations follow the correct version of Islam, Shia. While many Muslims regard Sunni also as acceptable, not so for the leaders in Iran.

Where the US doesn't dress its women properly or follow the correct laws, it is a good example of evil in the eyes of Iranian leaders-- at least the ones so far. Our tendency to interfere with countries, where we disapprove of their laws, especially Sharia Law, has added to disdain for us and a feeling it's spiritual to rid the world of us.

Is any kind of joining together possible with those viewpoints? Seems unlikely though clearly many Iranians share a different view, by how over 30,000 were killed when trying to demonstrate for what they want to see.

Will a war change anything... ??? 

 

 

 

 

Current Affairs

After a negative time last week, I hoped to write something more positive this week. Well... I didn't come up with anything, and still recuperating from what went wrong. Still, this was on my mind, but it might be shorter than at a different times.

Because talk of nuclear weapons has been on the table, both from Russia and now Iran, it's hard not to think of it.. I don't really think it was more than talk from Putin, but whoever knows for sure. 

The world is well armed with known nuclear weapons in 9 countries (Russia; United States, United Kingdom, France, China, Pakistan, Israel (who has never formally acknowledged they have them, but it's believed), North Korea, and India), After the US hit Hiroshima and Nagasaki to end WWII, no one has used them against another nation. I think the caution hss come from concern of being hit back.

Not just the US, but other nations do not want a country to have nukes when it has no hesitance to use the bombs. There are some joke cartoons about it and here is one I found online.

Kind of humorous except nothing involving a nuclear bomb is funny. There are other kinds of attempts to get Iran to stop trying to get a functioning one. Attempts were even made to buy peace. It can't work, not when Iranian leadership sees the United States as the Great Satan; so named by Khomeini when he took power in 1979. When religion enters into, who gets killed and who does not, logic goes out the window.

So, where are we now? I found this online. As with anything we find, how much do we really know?

Again, I got the image from a newspaper; but how much do we really know, ordinary citizens in Iran or the US? Just what we are told and what we know of history. 

As a way to better understand the Iranian Revolution of 1979, I suggest: Reading Lolita in Tehran by Azar Nafisi. It gave a better understanding of what that time meant to one woman.

Why does Iranian leadership hate us so much? I can give some info on that next week. It's though like so much-- complicated.

Of course, there are more concerns where it comes to Iran. Like sponsorship for worldwide terrorism, but that's not new for the world. 

Why did Trump choose to strike now? I've read that intelligence said the Iranians have 10 nuclear bombs almost ready to go. Iran has declared they can strike anywhere in the world, at their choice. So, we wait to find out or try to prevent that strike-- if it can be done. More next week on what I know of Iranian history and us...
 

negative times

 This was a bad week for me on multiple levels, which makes doing a blog I can feel proud about not a good idea. Hopefully next Saturday will give me more positive energy. I hope you all did have a good week. If you want to know more about what went wrong for me, leave a comment. Otherwise, I'll try to move on. 

I did want to put something positive here. It's from October '23. The photo is from our Arizona home.

 

mercury retrograde?

How much attention do you pay to astrology? I've spent time trying to understand it, but came to feel it relates too much to math for me. I do know my 'sign' and it does kind of fit. As for reading daily astrology tips for what to do, I don't check that. I have visited psychics, some years back, but not for years. 

There is, however, one thing I tend to pay attention to, if I see it-- Mercury Retrograde. The warnings are out regarding it starting February 26 until I think March 20. It is supposed to be a tough one; so I looked for a link to share here,for those who may be unfamiliar with it.

If it interests you, check it out at: https://www.thecut.com/article/mercury-retrograde-february-march-2026-predictions-survival-tips.html  

 old photo looking out toward the farm and a rainbow coming to our creek

some play time

As a kind of fun break, at least for me, from a lot of the upsetting news, I thought I'd share an app i got some time ago for play. I haven't actually used it on a book cover, nor do I use AI. I just play with it. 

You order it and then can use it as you wish. FotoSketcher. It lets you alter your original photos as I have done with a recent photo of me as well as photos from our desert home and the farm. For me, it's about play with many possible options to try. 

The following are all pencil sketching, but there are many others. Sometimes play is a good diversion from things we can do nothing about anyway.

  

farm from years ago, creek and barn before it collapsed due to old age

 

I obviously have many more. Here is a simple pencil drawing example, not one of our photos obviously. I think it does its best work with animals like us. 

 

a day for love

 For this blog, I had in mind a subject, then remembered it was Valentine's Day and felt this was better. We have so much pain out there, and sometimes in our lives, that it's good to have at least one day to take deep breaths and concentrate on love. It's not about cards, flowers, candy, etc., not even about having a special one. Instead, we need to take a break from being mad or afraid and let love seep in and fill us.

Regarding love, I've had two quotes that I carried with me through life, but especially when I was raising children. The first is:

 Let my love, like sunlight, surround you and yet give you illumined freedom. Rabindranath Tagore. 

I think its meaning is pretty obvious. I wrote it on a small piece of paper for my wallet.

Then, there was this one, which I tended to keep on refrigerators.   

"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If it does not, it was never meant to be." the quote is often attributed, in one form or another, to author Richard Bach.

 To me, the important part is not love that profits us but rather what we freely give. If the one we love no longer wants or needs to be with us, set it free without guilt. Not easy to live, but I believe at the heart of true love. It can leave a bit of a hole.

The second quote, by the way, does not apply to pets, cows, horses, etc. 

Black Swan

 

 

 Have you heard of black swans, not birds, but events? I learned of them some years back in relation to my writing. Recently because of some events, I did a search online for a succinct definition and AI provided this one:

"black swan" refers to a highly unpredictable, rare event with massive, paradigm-shifting consequences, popularized by Nassim Nicholas Taleb, who defined them by three traits: they are outliers (beyond normal expectations), have extreme impact, and are rationalized with hindsight as if they were predictable. Examples include the 2008 financial crisis or 9/11, with the name stemming from the historical European belief that all swans were white until black swans were discovered in Australia. While often negative, black swans can also be positive, like the rise of the internet, but the common usage focuses on major disruptive events.

Life provides more than a few of them at certain times, but we are never really prepared for them or they'd not be black swans.

 

Most recently, not far from where I live, a woman, living alone, was taken from her home, in the dead of the night, stirring up more than a little concern, added to by the fact of her daughter being a television news celebrity. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The kidnapping of an 84 year old woman would be considered unusual in the US, but what would be the motive in this case? It is a black swan event for the family at the least, but this has impacted the country beyond the loved ones  and friends. I relate to it because it's not that far from where I live,

maybe five miles by air, and in my kind of home situation. Ours is not, of course, a million dollar home, but is in the desert terrain. The photo of her home is probably from a drone or helicopter.

 

There are few clues, other than some blood splatter at the front door, that police have identified as hers. Scary as well as rare. It has ended up with the FBI and other agencies besides Pima County Police. It is on the news, far and wide. 

 

I relate to it for the location but also her age. So far, no return but some probably fake ransom notices but no proof that she's still alive. Hers is considered to be a safe neighborhood, but what is safe these days?

 

On YouTube, I've gotten into watching two true crime networks, A&E and 48 Hours, but try to only look where the killers have been caught and usually been found guilty. Things like this Black Swan provide no such comfort. What I have seen on those crime programs is how often illegal drugs are involved. Unlikely to be the case here. The other reasons murders are committed are within families, desire for money, hiding a secret. Ex relationships seem to sometimes end in violent results, male or female. Finally there are pedophiles and sexual predators, along with random killers, who do it for the experience... 

 

Here is a link to one of the news investigators with more info she has gotten from a reliable source.  The Suspect according to that source.  Personally, I have no clue and have heard multiple theories.

 

Below is one of the stories that I've watched. Not connected, but an example of police work, sometimes, with cold cases, years later. Hope the one in Tucson is solved sooner and with the return of a live victim. The longer it goes on, the less likely that this Black Swan will have any kind of happy ending.

 

Janet's Secret

Imbolc

With so much going on in the United States, it might seem what I'd write about. I've learned the hard way that it's best not to write in the heat of a time. When more comes out, and it always does, it can turn everything upside down. Besides, two things can be true but what do they end up meaning? So, at least for now, I am sticking to truths closer to home and things that I think can lead to a positive way to live. Hence--

image from Stencil on the aspects of Imbolc

 

 

It's not today, but rather tomorrow. A Celtic seasonal time, when the ewes have their lambs. We, as sheep owners, often saw the first lambs at this time. For those of us who celebrate a Celtic Year, Imbolc, in the Northern Hemisphere, it is from February1st to the evening of the 2nd, and the true beginning of spring. (I know, much of the US might find that ironic at the snowy moment.)

Imbolc (you do not pronounce the b) means ewe's milk. Whether on a farm or not, this is the time of stirrings of new life, what might be called the quickening when life comes back from where it's been dormant. 

"It is the promise of renewal, of hidden potential, of earth awakening and life-force stirring. Here is hope. We welcome the growth of the returning light and witness Life's insatiable appetite for rebirth. It is a time to let go of the past and look to the future, clearing out the old, making both outer and inner space for new beginnings." from the Goddess and the Greenman

This is one of four festivals to mark the seasonal changes to the year. Imbolc being first, followed by Beltane, Lamas/Lughnasadh, and finally Samhain- each oriented to a part of the

harvest as is fitting for the agrarian culture from which these celebrations came.

Imbolc may also be the time to celebrate the pagan goddess Brigid (she has been woven into the Church as St. Bridget). She is the goddess of healing, poetry, of fire, of the sun, and of the hearth. Hence it's appropriate to celebrate this time with fires. Brigid brings fertility to the land. As a Triple goddess, at Imbolc, she appears in her maiden form. 

Appropriate symbols for this day are snowdrops, swan feathers, white and green candles, and if you have a hearth, of course, a fire in it. The colors are traditionally white, red, and black. Smells associated with the day are cleansing and healing-- frankincense, mugwort, and sandalwood make good incenses. I've also seen dragon's blood suggested-- where would you get that? lol

As for foods, bake bread or rolls with sesame or poppy seeds. Dried foods like raisins, apples, and sun-dried tomatoes symbolize the sun. Serving your meal on sun-covered dishes would make a good accent. 

As happens with a lot of pagan celebrations, the Catholic Church turned February 2nd into a holy day-- Candlemas. It has aspects in common with Imbolc and can be traced back to the 4th century in Greece when it was a purification holiday, celebrating the return of the light. Candles are used in its observance. 

Because of the importance of Imbolc in one of my paranormals, here is the link to it for a bit more on the celebration. https://www.amazon.com/Ever-Before-Mystic-Shadows-Book-ebook/dp/B08411KB1B/

 

Clutter

  

found this quilt photo for free on the internet

 

Most nights, I dream and often remember the dreams. My dreams are colorful and often of things I don't have in my daily life. They can range from family members, from many years gone by to sometimes people I don't know or recognize what the brain pulled together. The dream this week was like that from years ago and nobody I recognized, but it was fun and ended up giving me a message.

So, in the dream, I was about to clean up a son's bedroom while he was gone somewhere. The room was full of quilts of all sorts and colors. They were spread all over. I began folding them, putting one onto the bed but most into a closet, neatly stacked. A few were damaged and were discarded. When I was finished, the room looked great. The surprise, when the son got home (nobody I recognized from my real life). and I learned that he was thinking more clearly with the room restored to organized.

When I woke up, I thought how the dream applied to life for what clutter does to our brains. It's not just in our homes but in other areas of our lives. For instance, we can be so jammed up with what's going on elsewhere in the world, to ignore what's in our daily lives.

Clutter is a problem in taking photographs with too many images to lose the subject. Or how about with writing and too many subjects.

Basically, I took that the lesson was for me to de-clutter my life as much as I can. Not easy by the way. 

Another day another dime.

 Well,

we can't say another penny as the fed will stop making them. Does that make the many we already have worth more money someday? Probably not unless they have the right images.

My writing on what's happening globally is no better today than last week. The killing in Minneapolis has as much confusing info on it as before. So the victim has four wounds, one in the head from shot through windshield, but one hole through the windshield, not four. Others were in her chest and arm. Who shot those? There are also claims that he has internal injuries from being hit with her vehicle. What makes sense to each side might depend on where they came from in terms of partisan hacks-- either side.

Greenland seems wrong to attack but is it part of global change with new and old enemies changing constantly. Iran-- bad however you look at it. WWIII-- is it on the horizon? I hope not but so much is out of our control, but maybe not what will hurt us.

My own life had multiple problems this week from one of our beloved cats developing a limp that meant she hopped to avoid stepping on one leg. After a veterinary visit and multiple x-rays (plus reducing our bank account), there is no firm answer, but she is getting old. She came to us a stray 9 years ago. We have no idea how old she was.  She is though, much beloved for so many reasons, and we do what we can to keep her as long as possible along with the two others, with maybe a future decision to adopt to have four cats... (fingers crossed on that one).

Then, there is the farm where one of our beloved big old white oaks split off part of it to damage the home roof, destroy the chimney and send one of the broken branches down two feet. Now, that's scary. Insurance is starting to deal with it (maybe) that but doesn't make it less stressful.

Didn't they used to say another day another dollar? I don't think so anymore. 

difficult times

 For me, this is a bad time to write what I feel. I do not know all the facts of many recent happenings; but feeling, I do know that. However, might that change when more facts come out. That's the problem with writing in such a time. Besides, not knowing, I do not want to write what will doubtless upset others. Reading the newspapers does enough of that. I might write about it all someday, when more is known, but not today.

So, I dove into my archives for things I had written years ago, like in 2005. I still very much relate to this feeling for today as a way to get through difficult times. Some say, live in the moment. I also believe that, but my memories are always also part of me today.

Before that, is this quote by Mary Oliver, known by many but always worth remembering.

"“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your wild and precious life."

 

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I have this yearning right now to be where the sky is big, the land open and not blemished by man's touch-- needful as that touch sometimes is. I'd like to smell the sage, feel the prairie wind in my hair. I'd like to forget for a moment that I am who I am and just be one with the earth. Be where the sky becomes as important or more so than the land beneath, where it speaks to you with gentle or fierce voices and you know somehow that whatever is troubling you is less important than you thought.

The closest I can get to that at the moment though is looking through my pictures, remembering the times in the Big Sky country and listening to the soundtrack to Legends of the Fall.

I am lucky the memories linger in my head. I sometimes think we only do things to have the memories become part of us, that the doing is not more important than the lingering effect on our souls. Some say live in the moment but the moment is part and parcel of all we have been and done. It's not just what we see in front of us but all that lingers within and that we can see when we close our eyes. The moment can likely never be as big as the memories we take away with us and can call back whenever we need to refresh our souls and be somewhere meaningful with someone we love.

So for just a moment I am not sitting at my keyboard but am instead at a trailhead in the Absaroka Mountains and I feel the edginess of knowing the unknown lies ahead. Might a grizzly be down the trail? A big elk? or just a view that will make me catch my breath?

A new year-- according to one calendar.

 Do you make resolutions for a calendar new year? I had some years, maybe from my 50s or thereabouts where I'd do goal statements.  I'd break them into spiritual, physical and emotional. After a few years of that I realized I wasn't changing any of it. Time to think but not write anything down.