tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post6717963107462863940..comments2024-03-26T15:30:39.733-07:00Comments on Rainy Day Thoughts: The Illusion of Romantic LoveRain Trueaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07994628226501093880noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-58124423299285374252010-01-28T22:41:59.438-08:002010-01-28T22:41:59.438-08:00Romantic love is something we all deeply long for ...Romantic love is something we all deeply long for and many of us think we can beat the laws of limerance. But, we can't. <br /><br />I am truly cynical about romantic love because it is so temporary--and I've been burned too many times. <br /><br />Your current writings about illusions are very, very provocative, Rain. I think you've got yourselves the makings of a book here.Fran aka Redondowriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10603407790426583209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-89613088388310901782010-01-24T10:14:26.227-08:002010-01-24T10:14:26.227-08:00I was expecting He's Just Not That Into You to...I was expecting He's Just Not That Into You to be more of a comedy so it took me a while to get into it. But after watching it, I thought it was a good film. It definitely demonstrates how men and women sabotage themselves when it comes to finding a mate.<br />And I think you are correct Rain, some people are in love with being in love instead of being in love with the person they are with. And some people are just after the chase. They want that energizing lust of a new relationship all the time.Ingineer66https://www.blogger.com/profile/01319022726561229313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-41849761350136767852010-01-24T09:37:41.988-08:002010-01-24T09:37:41.988-08:00It is too bad that I didn't know what I now kn...It is too bad that I didn't know what I now know during my daughter's formative years... bought her movies like "The Little Mermaid" and let her watch them over and again... stories about women who just didn't think their situations were as good as being with a man who could promise her a "better" situation.Mike McLarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881672365554137673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-85590803667773924442010-01-24T09:19:30.614-08:002010-01-24T09:19:30.614-08:00Paul, you said it well about love. I think some al...Paul, you said it well about love. I think some also of what people call love is really a kind of lust (not just the sexual kind) wrapped up in supposed love but more about us than about the beloved. I am not sure of what it really is. Sometimes the person wants to love someone who they have created but doesn't exist-- perhaps the mirror of themselves.<br /><br />I especially like your tiger analogy-- Like roping the wind :)Rain Trueaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07994628226501093880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-23585422300082213962010-01-24T09:12:48.612-08:002010-01-24T09:12:48.612-08:00and I will definitely check out The Mirror has Two...and I will definitely check out The Mirror has Two Faces, Kay. It sounds like another very pertinent look at relationships and people. Thanks.Rain Trueaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07994628226501093880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-40169896713887337682010-01-24T09:12:00.880-08:002010-01-24T09:12:00.880-08:00Thanks so much for the heads up, Alan, on the new ...Thanks so much for the heads up, Alan, on the new version of Emma. I miss so much on Masterpiece Theater but not keeping track of what is playing and then rent it later or in the case of Elizabeth Gaskell's stories, buy the series. We have been watching Cranford and only discovered now that there was a Return to Cranford that I missed earlier this month. Both Farm Boss and I love these kind of stories; so it doesn't surprise me that you would also like them. They are so much about a cultural period and human nature. Cranford in particular has been delighting us but until I saw The Elizabeth Gaskell Collection (Wives and Daughters, Cranford, and North and South), I really hadn't known anything about Gaskell which is a shame as her stories are delightful. <br /><br />I really recommend Jane Austen and the Elizabeth Gaskell BBC videos because they are a healthy distraction from our current political situation. They take you to another time and remind you life has often been complex and had a lot of heartbreak attached to it. The pace of the films, the characters, but then what they also faced just seems very good to me especially right now.Rain Trueaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07994628226501093880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-13371358523137028992010-01-24T09:10:03.921-08:002010-01-24T09:10:03.921-08:00I think that love energizes some people and crippl...I think that love energizes some people and cripples others. It like a 700 pound Bengal tiger that you grab by the tail. Do you hold on for dear life or let it eat you ? A lot of scars come with love, but so do a lot of sweet memories...Paulhttp://shadowofdiogenes.blogs.com/shadow/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-69910967707651004962010-01-24T08:28:53.799-08:002010-01-24T08:28:53.799-08:00I think it does exist but, to a degree, is ephemer...I think it does exist but, to a degree, is ephemeral. Sometimes, but not often, it can last a lifetime. <br /><br />We -- I'm talking those of us who grew up with fairy tales instead of Dr. Seuss -- were pre-conditioned for that illusion. We all want the 'high' of that.<br /> <br />My experiences with romantic love have been disastrous so I don't trust it much. Still there's a sign on the wall in my dining room that reads "It's never too late to live happily ever after." The trick is knowing what that means for yourself. <br /><br />My favorite movie that explores romantic love is <br />"The Mirror Has Two Faces". There's a great line that sort of sums up how many people approach love: "So when my date takes me home and kisses me goodnight and I don't hear Puccini in my head, I dump him." I think a lot of people -- especially men -- are like that.<br /><br />Bottom line is that we're all searching for perfection and that, my friend, is the biggest illusion of all.Kay Dennisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02646717192332313215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-9326868308897103972010-01-24T07:54:00.456-08:002010-01-24T07:54:00.456-08:00I'll just have to see "He's Just Not ...I'll just have to see "He's Just Not That Into You". Thanks for your post.Diane Widler Wenzelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05270246393901276648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22918248.post-49381449649132910642010-01-24T04:54:33.840-08:002010-01-24T04:54:33.840-08:00Enjoyed your post this morning Rain but then,unlik...Enjoyed your post this morning Rain but then,unlike most men I suppose with regard to movies, I tend to like your typically referred to "chic-flicks". Huge fan of "Pride and Predjudice" not to mention "Sense and Sensibility".<br /><br />And I agree, "He's Just Not That Into You" was a reasonably fair portrayal of reality on a number of levels and a very enjoyable movie. And perhaps because it was wrapped inside several budding relationships, the relationship involving Scarlett Johansson and her eyes for a married man I found to be almost disturbing in its realistic portrayal.<br /><br />It was a very good movie and I have watched it twice so far. It certainly inspires hope in our relationships but doesn't gloss over reality.<br /><br />By the way, while we have mentioned Jane Austen, PBS is airing a three-week mini-series if you will of her book "Emma" starting tonight on Masterpiece Theatre.Alan Ghttp://www.cyberspacedawdler.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com